In a world where love is often romanticised and fairy tales end with a ‘happily-ever-after’, the concept of a soul mate has captivated humans for centuries. As women, we navigate the complexities of love and relationships, striving to find meaning and fulfilment in them. Thus, the question arises: Do you believe in soul mate and happily ever after? Below are the responses of some of our contributors:
Busari Ganeeyah Abimbola
No, I do not. Life is not a bed of roses. There are good times as well as bad times in a marriage. Marriage is an institution one does not graduate from. One learns, relearns, and unlearns over time. So, I do not subscribe to a ‘happily-ever-after’. We could only make our relationship better and design it to our taste. No marriage/home is perfect. The imperfection in a marriage makes it unique.
Ojibara Rahmah
Life is not like a fairy tale. It sounds like a dream or an imagination, but it is not. Finding a perfect romantic man seems like an overboard thing to me. Relationships require effort and perseverance, and also involve facing and overcoming obstacles. I appreciate the idea of a partnership that embraces the journey of personal and collective growth, rather than seeking an unattainable ideal of perfection.
Hussein A’isha Olamide
I believe in soul mate. Happily-ever-after is not a place, but a journey that every individual in a relationship has to play a part consciously to bring to pass. It is not a place where there would not be problems, but a place where both parties solve issues without making it recurring for everyone to live in a loving environment.
Ayyub Nusāybah Folashade
We are created to find our better half to feel complete. Our better half is what I could define as a soul mate. And taking someone as our soul mate involves a lot of things. We cannot choose something that would ruin us to complete us. We look for someone who shares the same interest, connection, deep feelings, vulnerability, and someone we feel safe with and who makes us evolve into the better version of ourselves. The Idea of having a soul mate or any other human being is to find the better version of you in another human, the most beautiful and the mended part. A soul mate is the other part of us − without it, we are not complete. It is what makes us feel whole and happier.
Odunaya Oluwatoyin Elizabeth
I believe in soul mate and happily ever after. Let us take my parents as an example − the fact that my dad is not Dangote, my mum stays true, loving, loyal, respectful and contented with him. Till today, my parents eat from the same plates and rub minds together. But in our case, there is no more contentment. Because a good guy lacks money at the moment does not define his ending. I would live happily ever after with my soul mate if he is caring, loyal, supportive, accommodating, and God-fearing. He must not be lazy. An ambitious man would attain great heights someday.
Ivie Dare
I do not believe in soul mate, but I believe in happily ever after. I have seen many people who have managed to grow old together, happy and in love, and that gives me hope that happily-ever-after is not just a concept.
Lami
I would not say I believe in it, neither would I say I do not believe in it. It is more of an ‘if it happens, it happens’ thing. Many people think they have found the one or they have found their soul mate, but they still end up together. So what is the point? Just take it in good faith and let it come naturally at its own time. And if it does not come, oh well…
Seun Akindele
I believe that the idea of a soul mate and finding everlasting happiness with one person could be romantic and appealing, and is possible. Many people have grown up hearing about it in fairy tales and movies.
Semilore Ayomikun
I believe in soul mate and happiness with the person you love. But, let us not deceive ourselves. There would be ups and downs in a relationship or marriage. I would advise one should prepare for the unexpected.
Deborah Babalola
Happily-ever-after is something I believe is important to maintain a realistic outlook. Life is full of ups and downs, and relationships go through different phases. Happiness is not stagnant but a dynamic and evolving experience. It requires a lot of effort and commitment to nurture and sustain a deep connection with your partner.
Ogundare Zainab Modupe
This question seems so easy to answer but at the same time, difficult. I believe in soul mate, but getting or knowing one’s soul mate is the difficult part. Happily ever after? This question in itself is not realistic. This only happens in movies. Every woman wants a happily-ever-after, but only a few eventually get it. Soul mate and happily ever after are relative. I believe in soul mate, but not every woman would have the opportunity to have one. Happily-ever-after is unrealistic to me. However, every woman has the right to define her happily ever after.
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