To enjoy your marriage is not something that happens by chance. It’s not going to be through wishful thinking. Rather, the right steps must be taken if the marital journey will be smooth and safe. It is, therefore, needful for people intending marriage or are married to approach the door of marriage using the right keys. This is what guarantees a blissful marriage.
Below are some of the needed keys to be used in this regard.
Don’t neglect your spouse
To neglect something is to ignore that thing. And whatever we refuse to pay attention to, we lose. When a couple fails to pay attention to each other, with time they lose their feelings for each other. Attention is something everyone looks forward to from his/her spouse because it is one of the attributes of love. When you love a person, you give him/her your attention. When you love a thing, you cannot take your eyes off it. Even when you are not where it is, your mind can’t get away from it.
Many men pay more attention to their cars than their wives, and many women pay more attention to their children than their husbands. When that is the case, you are simply revealing to your spouse that your car/children come before her/him in your order of priority. And, many times, that is not what we are saying, we are only wrong in our order of priority.
So, neglecting your spouse will not bring you marital bliss. Rather, it makes your marriage a necessary evil.
Don’t take your spouse for granted
To take your spouse for granted is to be so used to him/her that you don’t recognise his/her true value anymore and, as a result, don’t show that you are grateful for him/her any longer. This is a sin many couples are guilty of and it’s one thing that can kill our love for one another. You must learn to appreciate your spouse. Husband and wife must value one another.
Whatever you will not do to her if she is not your wife, you should not do to her now that she is your wife. That she agrees to marry you is not a crime she has committed against you to make you see and treat her now like nobody. And whatever you will not say to him if he is not your husband, you should not say to him because he is your husband. That he chose to spend his life with you rather than someone else shouldn’t make him lose his respect before you. That he/she is your spouse should make him/her deserve an honour you should accord to no one else.
Many of us take our spouses for granted, and it’s a signal that the marriage is not heading to the destination of bliss. So, let us avoid it.
Cultivate friendship with your spouse
The love between a couple is promoted when they cultivate friendship with one another. Do things that friends do: Friends respect one another’s opinions, gist together, spend time with one another; laugh, share things, relax, protect, feel safe, and are open to one another.
The moment a man and a woman are married, they should have no one else as their best friend other than their spouse. That’s why it’s advisable to marry one’s friend. It makes for a solid foundation for the marriage.
Communicate with your spouse
Communication is one of the bedrocks of a good marriage. Communication promotes love. Every divorce in the law court begins with a breakdown in communication between the couple. Whatever is going on between a couple, as long as they can still sit down and talk it over, there will always be a way out of it. But the moment there is a communication breakdown and it’s not addressed on time, divorce or separation is inevitable.
Husbands and wives should allow for free communication in marriage. As much as possible, there must be freedom of speech. The degree to which the parties involved are free to express their hurt, displeasure, feelings, opinions, etc. is the degree to which their love for one another will grow. Spouses must cultivate a relationship in which there is nothing they will not be able to tell one another.
Communication goes beyond talking, it must enhance a full understanding of what is being passed across by each side of the divide ─ husband and wife. Don’t just drop your words or message. Ensure that your spouse is on the same page as you. It’s what’s called effective communication ─ the message must be received and understood by the recipient.
Make lovemaking something you both look forward to
Your s3xual relationship with your spouse plays a very important role in your love life. S3x is God’s gift to a married couple for the consummation of their love for one another. A couple that will remain in love with one another after several years of being married must enjoy great s3x. This is because s3x serves as a lubricator. It helps to lubricate the marriage against friction. It helps to strengthen the bond between husband and wife.
The absence of a great s3xual relationship between a couple can generate enough friction that can pull them apart. That is why it’s important you do whatever it will take to make you and your spouse enjoy great s3x at all times. Neglecting sex or downplaying it is a time bomb in the life of the marriage.
In today’s world, s3xual displeasure has become a frequent factor of divorce in our courts. Spouses flaunt it graciously to make them opt out of marriage. Without great sex in marriage, the marriage becomes vulnerable.
My books, ‘Enjoying Great S3x Life’ and ‘How To Make Your Wife Enjoy S3x’ are great tools for achieving lovemaking in marriage.
Be romantic in your marriage
Romance is an act that couples must deeply embrace in marriage. While what makes for romance varies, the focus of the act remains the same. From daily hugging to cuddling, walking with hands locked together, eating together on the same plates, outings, etc. Romance is always fun for married couples to enjoy, especially when the love languages of spouses are well understood.
May our marital honeymoons be forever.
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